I want you to know I’m celebrating. I’m celebrating the life of this baby you are carrying right along with you.
Just as I’m mourning. I’m mourning the life of the child that you carried for just a short time before saying goodbye.
Joy and grief form an intimate bond during pregnancy after loss. And while I have no doubt the discovery of this pregnancy has filled your heart with great joy, I understand the heartache that remains from the child you thought you’d be holding, but aren’t. Your ongoing grief might be misunderstood by many, but please know that it’s normal, and that many of us have walked in your shoes before.
Pregnancy loss left you with so many questions, and you’ve found that pregnancy after loss has done the same thing – the biggest one being “Will this baby live?”
You will naturally be pulled towards feelings of fear, and hurt, and worry. And you are allowed those feelings. After all, what mother doesn’t feel those things when it comes to the well-being of her child?
But when the tug-of-war between joy and sorrow pulls you towards darkness, you must fight for hope.
You must fight to steady your feet. You must fight to believe that God has good things in store. You must fight for you baby.
And I know you will. Because, you mama, are a warrior. You are strong. You are bold. You are courageous. Because God has made you so.
Let your love for your baby keep you walking towards the light, in hopeful anticipation of what’s to come. And let God’s love for you carry you when you feel too weary to keep walking.
I’m praying for you. I’m praying for your baby. I’m praying for your healing.
I know your heart is full. And I’m praying that your arms will be too.